Kirrukal

What was a happy and normal home till the other day has become a place where students dread talking to their parents.

Depression, dejection, emotional breakdown are the result of post-Plus Two results' scenario as parents and their children approaching professional counsellors for help.

Though students felt that they had secured good marks parents did not think so. As parents attached more importance to cut-off marks for professional courses, happiness of passing Plus Two was totally cut off in several homes.

Ever since the results came out on Wednesday, nearly 35 families contacted `Top Kids' counselling centre here seeking counselling and advice. In several cases, it was parents who felt more disappointed than students themselves.

"There were cases where a father said he was not willing to talk to his son though he scored 1,013 marks. He did not congratulate or give sweet to his son. That puts more stress on the student and leads to dangerous consequences," says Dheep, consultant psychiatrist at Apollo Speciality Hospitals and founder of Top Kids .

In some cases, it was mothers who became emotional at the marks though they were good.

In some other cases, fathers deplored over the quantum of money spent on tuitions.

According to Dr. Dheep, the problem begins with high and unrealistic expectations of parents. They think that a seat in engineering or medical college only is the ultimate achievement.

"In some cases, students are scared to go home. Parents must know the capacity of their children and acknowledge them when they get reasonable marks," he says.

Some calls from students gave shock to the doctors as they were made from public telephone booths. They refused to give their house telephone number fearing parents. "Such an attitude on the part of parents is not good," he says and urges parents to be appreciative during the sensitive post-result period.

In three cases, students showed suicidal tendency due to excess reaction from parents in the last few days. Urgent calls for help came from places like Tirunelveli, Nagercoil, Dindigul, and Kanyakumari.

Dr. Dheep says parents and students could go for counselling to tackle the situation and that is the best outlet.

"With the SSLC results expected in the next few days, the mood is going to be tough in many homes and it is up to parents to remain cool,'' he says adding that marks do matter but it is not everything in life as there are many courses to choose from.

src:The hindu
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Ingeneral parents expect more from their children..will this be the case when our turn comes. ???

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